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Adella spitting some black pill truths. Lookism and the halo effect is a real phenomena.
I definitely think attraction can be a big part of a romantic relationship, especially with the way it factors into chemistry. As long as that attraction isn’t based on racist stereotypes
Yes please, podcast video!!! Whatever you have to say NEEDS to be said ? ????
I see what you mean. I agree that physical attraction is definitely important in a romantic relationship. I also agree that Barnette put up with more because he deemed his wife physically attractive. However, I don't think Shaina was being entirely dishonest when it came to compatibility with Kyle as they did have an argument about religion before he proposed. At the same time, I don't recall Shayne talking about religion much if not at all. Also, his questions were more flirty in nature than Kyle's questions were. I don't think love is entirely blind. I definitely believe it can be blind for awhile due to infatuation, lust, and due to insecurities. However, after being with someone for awhile I don't think that love will remain blind.
I agree you can definitely build attraction. I see beautiful women with ugly men all the time! These women aren't settling, they adore their men. Probably they stop seeing the negative attributes after a while, and can only perceive the positives. So maybe love can become blind if given time
attractiveness is important to me, not that I'm looking for the picture-perfect instsgram/pinerest looking man. I just need to be attracted to you beyond your personality, I don't care about how attractive other people find you, but you just have to be attractive to me. Otherwise I will just feel uncomfortable, and won't be very into the relationship.
I love your commentary and your voice is so soothing ✨
I needed more!!?
3:19 You made sure to add that "at the time" in there huh ??
Very nice video. Ty ?
Gonna add that term to my vocabulary!
This ended too quickly! Ultimately, I think love is an action promoted by some sort of feeling. I also think God created attraction and would want us to be overall attracted to our partners. I think the problem may lie in thinking we need to be ANIMALISTIC about our attraction.
Also Shaina made her discomfort obvious (at least to the viewers) before she saw Kyle in person. While her maturity in the faith may be a question to people, I think she at least wanted someone who claimed Christianity vs someone who is strongly against it and that is understandable.
I think (perceived) looks matter (somewhat). I mean, how would you feel if the person you're with said "Yeah, you might not be much in the looks department but you have a great heart!" God forbid! ¿Por qué no los dos? Now, I'm exaggerating a bit but I definitely think it's possible to have the best of both worlds. The point you make at 4:30 is very crucial because attraction is an individual thing. To put it harshly, "one man's trash is another man's treasure."
Another facet of attraction is that it's often molded by our environment. So often, we may find ourselves psuedo-attracted to people simply because we're "told" that we should be attracted to them. This is where we can delve into beauty standards, parental influence, media, and the like, but you've captured much of that quite beautifully on your channel already.
I also think there's a way of love that can transcend attraction. I love the language of 1 Corinthians 13, how it says that love bears all things, including a lack of attraction I suppose.
would love a video on toxic male podcasts!!
I wish this was longer ?
I couldn't stand when Shaina kept making a big deal about Kyle not being a Christian but wanted Shane (who was not) and now engaged to a guy who clearly isn't either lol. Just tell the truth
The show even admits, though unspoken, that physical appearance is important. Everyone on the show is attractive, and they didn’t include the footage from many of the connections which occurred with some of the less conventionally attractive participants.
Guurl you are glowing, what lip colour is that?
hell no love is not blind! And yes I'd love to hear you talk about Shake's podcast lool
On point as usual ?
I’ve always thought that if the man is good I will like him no matter the looks. But last summer I had the experience where I was dating this man. Very well behaved, good manners, basically, everything I wanted. But his looks.. it wasn’t bad but I started finding small things off putting, like how awful his nails, his smell etc. I couldn’t see past that and had to end our dating
She wasn't ugly tho.
He was a self hating male with lots of issues.
He said himself that he mashes women for being fat, because HE HIMSELF USED TO BE FAT.. And also he is an immigrant that obsessed about blonde blue eyed women, and had never even glanced at an Indian woman, since he was able to date out. Thes the type, where the most basic Becky would do, but he'd look at the most gorgeous Indian woman, as " his sister
Facts ? ? ? ?? ? ?
the intro animation is so cute!
Physical attraction is very important.. I’ve been with guys who weren’t my type or not initially attractive because I liked their personality. But honestly… in the back of my mind I wished the physical matched what I really wanted. ??♀️
I say tell those on Catfish that love is blind. Soon as they see the person that is not as pictured all that mental and emotional build up over years diminished. You have to be somewhat physically attractive to the person. As the show actually uses fairly attractive people because they know looks are important.
Men don’t have to b attractive in todays society.it’s very rare to see a man going after a woman ugly in all categories or just for her personality.
I believe they're both important but because of the digital era, looks became more of a priority than character so now the scale is leaning towards one side or the other when in reality we need a healthy dose of both.
Attraction has to start with looks and physicality. As much as personality can be important I can’t see your personality. First impressions are based on what most people see. Even if the personality is amazing if there’s no attraction it’s called friendship. As friends we base on attributes such as commonalities, humor or personality and we do not care because they are who they are. However it’s different when you have to be physically and emotionally engaged with someone it’s hard to look past. As much as people say it’s not about looks it is because otherwise you wouldn’t have been attracted to that person.
So happy I found your channelll!?
LOVE IS BLURRY
Deepti was overweight and has said on several forums that she had body image issues (even her family members said so on social media).
No my jaw really dropped at that Halo effect explanation, can someone please explain why young women came out to support Ted Bundy !!!???
ily you always give such insightful perspective n thoughts!!!
If I’m attracted to a man physically and he is ‘conventionally attractive’ the relationship usually NEVER works cause the thing is I’m a pretty gal (yes tooting my own horn ??♀️) & I’m also a goofball that is extremely attracted to nerdy men…& they aren’t usually the most “attractive” but honey it is to me! ??
-I’ve never seen the show but enjoyed this video!